Moms can be so annoying. But where would we be without them?
Compiled by Kathleen O’Brien
May 10, 2018
When I was in my freewheeling 20s, the conversation over drinks with friends would often turn to our mothers — and how they drove us nuts. I laughed at my friends’ gripes and shared my own, but I also wondered, “Why would I ever want to become this annoying person in someone’s life?”
Nonetheless, I did have a child within a decade of that conversation. It didn’t take me long to realize that 1) I was in way over my head and I’d better call my mom, and 2) if my kid didn’t sometimes find me annoying, I probably wasn’t doing it right.
In tribute to all that concern and guidance and love, this weekend we are sharing some of our favorite Opinion articles and videos on mothers and motherhood. Take a look.
ImageEdan Lepucki’s mother at 20, on her honeymoon in Mexico.After her mother passes away, the filmmaker Judith Helfand struggles to pack up her things — figuring out what to keep and how to let go.Published OnMay 7, 2014
From the filmmaker Judith Helfand: “My mother indirectly left me an object lesson on the importance of going through your loved one’s stuff with them. And so I urge you: Take the time while your parents and loved ones are still alive. It’ll be much more fun.”
How is being a mother selfless? Selflessness implies that we have no skin in the game. In motherhood, we’re all in.
Columnists on loving and missing their mothers:
“Someone will tell you to be sure you ‘don’t forget Mom today.’ To that, at least, your response will be honest: ‘I never do.’”
“Mom was not famous, but she was remarkable. … When I told her I was thinking of writing a memoir, she dryly remarked, ‘Of whom?’”
“Much of the outlook that infuses my own writings was bred into me from my mom, who believed that even if pessimists were usually right, optimists were behind great changes.”
A mother being comforted after dropping off her daughter for her first day of kindergarten.CreditKirsten Luce for The New York Times
“People have pointed out to me that, despite calling myself a mother, I didn’t give birth to my sons. They’re right, of course. But there is a lot more to parenting than birthing,” writes Jennifer Finney Boylan.
CreditAnna and Elena Balbusso
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